
One good thing
At times it can feel like telling your story, protesting, donating, crying, yelling, making phone calls, educating, and earnest conversations don't make enough of a difference. Some days you feel worn down, heartbroken, and helpless. No matter how you're feeling right now, you are valuable and deserve care.
Today, and especially on days when it feels like nothing is in your control, please do one good thing that reminds you that your well-being matters.
One of these may be

One question to soften panic and find compassion
As 2017 seems to rush to an end, I'm steadying myself in an intention that feels grounding when it seems like time is flying. (Because wow, wasn't it just Halloween?)
This intention is also a solid first step to offering myself compassion when things get heavy and I'm teetering on the edge of overwhelmed. It's really simple.
Take a breath and ask, "What am I willing to notice?"
This question isn't meant to withdraw us from participating in the world, but to engage a lit

Practical self care when the holidays drive you nuts
It’s hard to believe that holiday season is right around the corner! That happened fast, huh? You might be excited for really fun family time, a “friendsgiving,” or a relaxing break from work when you can finally catch up on Stranger Things.
Or maybe holidays tend to bring with them a bit of stress. You may even be dreading some really hard stuff. Maybe you’re bracing for rough conversations with family or anticipating Aunt Susan railing on about her diet and giving you th

If self care is hard for you, you aren't alone
Something I hear a lot is "I know _____ (exercise, taking my medication, eating breakfast, going to bed on time, etc.) is such a small and easy thing. Everyone else is able to do it, but for some reason I just can't get my act together." I just wanted to send you a reminder today that 1) sometimes the "easy" stuff is actually really hard and takes a lot of energy and 2) you aren't alone if you feel that way. We don't like to look at the shadow side of the self care movement a

Some reassurance to soothe your self care guilt
It’s ok to waver in your self care.
Even if you know what a difference it makes and you're struggling without it.
Even if you’ve learned your lesson about going to bed on time many times over and you’ve slipped back into old patterns of putting it off.
Even if you’ve worked to have a friendlier relationship with your body and today you’re really vulnerable and only feel negative thoughts.
Even if you spent months getting into the habit of getting yourself to a wee

A very brief holiday self care guide
These wintry days are chilly and dark and the holidays can be tough, so I thought I'd send you a little inspiration to nurture yourself through the end of the year!
Although the reminders below are particularly relevant for tending to yourself during the winter holiday gauntlet, they apply year-round. Especially if you are grieving or low (and even if you’re not), please give yourself permission and tenderness to continually check in with what’s right for YOU. 1) You don’t

Steadying yourself when your heart is hurting
No matter what side you’re on, the U.S feels more divided than ever, doesn’t it? The people you love most may be divided, too.
When people are at odds with each other, it’s natural to feel anger, concern, fear, or grief.
Yet here you are, big-hearted soul. And you are still breathing.
Take a moment to place a hand over your heart or your belly, directly onto your skin if you can. Feel the warmth radiating from your palm and fingers onto your chest or the softness of

When keeping it together hurts
This past year, I’ve been grieving. Grief can be an alarmingly unpredictable thing, swinging you perilously between panic, numbness, stomach-turning sadness, and peace, sometimes within the course of a day, an hour, even a minute.
And oh boy, the tears.
We have a difficult time with tears in our culture, don’t we?
There are times, of course, when crying is inconvenient or feels inappropriate. There are other times when crying is thoroughly inescapable and you hav