Every year I share a list of holiday self care reminders. This year I want to add something to the list.
You are allowed to pause.
When you’re busy, emotions are running high, and you feel like you need to be in 10 places at the same time, it’s tempting and possibly even automatic to tune out your needs and your body’s signals. Sometimes you do really need to disconnect to put out fires and ensure that everyone is safe. But many times checking in with yourself can be don
Relaxing your jaw can be helpful for coping with stress, TMD, and migraines. Even if you aren't experiencing any of those right now, you may find that there's a surprising amount of tension in your jaw! Take just a minute or two to bring your attention to your breath and release tension in your jaw. #mindfulness #breath #stressrelief #relaxation #stress #littlehabits #meditation
Back in November, I took a break from my daily cup of coffee and was a little surprised to find that within just a few days, my vocabulary had halved and my ability to finish a sentence seemed to be on the fritz.
I’ve always been sensitive, so it made sense that caffeine withdrawal could make me feel fuzzy and tired. But months later, my brain fog hadn’t gotten even a bit better and I was still super tired.
Mid-sentence I lost my train of thought, never to catch it agai
As 2017 seems to rush to an end, I'm steadying myself in an intention that feels grounding when it seems like time is flying. (Because wow, wasn't it just Halloween?)
This intention is also a solid first step to offering myself compassion when things get heavy and I'm teetering on the edge of overwhelmed. It's really simple.
Take a breath and ask, "What am I willing to notice?"
This question isn't meant to withdraw us from participating in the world, but to engage a lit
I teach a pose in my yoga classes that I've been calling the “funky flamingo.”
Obviously the funky flamingo isn’t a sacred, ancient yoga pose! It’s just a fun shape with a silly name that can become part of your yoga practice when you bring your attention, breath, and compassion to it.
If you’re curious, here’s a version of it: There's a lot going on! Chair pose, a heel squeezing up to challenge the hamstrings, a twist, plus balance. If you're having a tough balance day
We all want a good night’s sleep. But sometimes it’s just not happening.
A new medication gives you night sweats. The neighbor’s car alarm keeps going off. The kids want endless glasses of water. You’re worried something is wrong with the cat and she may need to go to the vet. Or you just can’t put your finger on why, but your brain won’t shut down.
On top of not being able to fall asleep, an annoying voice pipes up:
“Even if I fall asleep this very second, I’m going
There was a time when I thought the number one most important thing that anyone needed to know about self care was how to get a good night's sleep. Later, I thought it might be exercise or stress management or deep breathing. I still think those things are important, but they are just things that you do to take care of yourself.
Compassion is the actual foundation of self care.
Once you can be compassionate with yourself through the full spectrum of your emotions, action
Even though seated meditation can be restorative and powerful, let me be honest. Some days, it's really hard.
Sometimes sitting is physically uncomfortable – your back feels creaky, your foot falls asleep, or you have indigestion.
Sometimes being totally still and quiet means that painful emotions bubble to the surface. You may not be ready to deal with them yet.
Sometimes it just feels boring.
On the days those things are true, we can notice the discomfort object
Do you ever hear a term so many times that it starts to lose its meaning? “Self care” can be one of those terms. It’s so ever-present that it’s easy to overlook a key part: care.
We don’t always extend the care we give others to ourselves.
We listen to our friends’ worries, affirm their feelings, and remind them that we’ve got their backs no matter what.
Even though we scold the dog for peeing on the rug, we later remind him, “Awww, you’re such a good boy!”
I was a theater kid in high school. One of my favorite parts of performing was the moment of darkness at the opening of the show, just before light beamed onto the stage. The audience was quiet with anticipation and the actors were in our places.
Worries over what was to come, whether it was my first note, the hazards of wobbling in costume heels, or enunciating the tricky part of my monologue, all of it disappeared. During that still and silent pause between preparing an